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Marriage restoration after separation

  • anxiousfornothing
  • Aug 21, 2019
  • 4 min read

My husband and I had been going through some difficulties and on July 18th of last year, we separated with a view to ultimately getting a divorce. I left everything in Texas (where I had been living with my husband) and my son and I moved back in with my mom in Pennsylvania. Because I hadn’t taken anything with me, I literally had to start all over again. I had to get a new job, new clothes etc - I didn’t even have a car and had to share my sister’s car whilst there. As you can imagine, the early days of separation were incredibly difficult. My husband had been my best friend who I had spoken to every day since we were married and now, due to separation, we weren’t talking at all. I got extremely depressed and I ended up speaking with a prophet (who happened to be a friend of my husband’s family) about what I was going through. He prophesied that God was going to restore my marriage and encouraged me to thank God every day for restoring my marriage, even during times when my faith was low or when I didn’t see much happening in the natural. At times in the weeks to come, this was difficult to believe but I decided to run with it anyway and trust God for restoration. In the meantime, I started to make room for God. I spent more time reading my Bible, I prayed much more and I really learnt how to stand for my marriage in faith. I also prayed for God to reveal to me whether my husband was the man that He truly desired for me to be with. For context, my husband and I had met when we were 14 and I knew back then that he was the one for me but wanted God’s confirmation. I asked God to show me the scripture Mark 10:9 somewhere as my confirmation that He wanted to restore my marriage. In the days that followed, I was looking for this scripture everywhere and didn’t see it because I was so focussed on finding it but the minute I let go of my anxieties and gave it to God (and in turn truly forgot that I was looking for it), I saw the scripture! I had joined a group online called Rejoice Marriage Ministries which is an online platform for people going through separation and/or divorce and sure enough, God brought my attention to that scripture whilst on that app one day. So this ultimately gave me peace to carry on standing. The weeks that followed were still not easy. Some days I felt ok and others, I felt depressed and I would cry but in these moments, I would listen to worship music until I had no more tears. I truly do believe that these moments brought me closer to God as He was the only one I could talk to about how I was feeling and what I was going through. I continued to ask God for confirmation throughout this journey and each time, He would. However, a couple of key moments were as follows:

- I asked God to open the lines of communication between me and my husband. We had not been speaking unless it was to do with our baby but shortly after praying this, my husband called me out of the blue and we started to talk from time to time again. - I sought advice from others who had been through a similar situation as well as my preacher and God used these people to speak words of encouragement into me to continue to stand. - I asked God how to continue to be a wife to my husband from afar and God encouraged me to tell my husband that I loved him from time to time. I was nervous to do this but I did it and he would text back saying he loved me too. - One day, I asked God to show me our surname (Hudson) or to allow that name to cross my path somehow as confirmation that he was restoring our marriage and He did! I had been talking to my coworker and he started going on about how Sears went bankrupt. He then continued to talk about Macy’s and JC Penneys also going bankrupt. He mentioned that one of those stores was taken over by another store but he couldn’t remember the name. I stared blankly back as to be honest I had no idea what he was talking about lol. Then, he blurted out ‘Hudson Bay’ and immediately I started smiling. - I asked God to show me rainbows when restoration was near and about two weeks before our marriage was restored, I started to see rainbows everywhere. Thanksgiving was approaching and my husband called me to say that he would be coming with his friend to Pennsylvania and wanted to see our son. I prayed before he arrived that God would use this meeting as part of our restoration and as you would expect, we had a wonderful time. The following week, we spent time together again and spoke in depth about our relationship and eventually he told me that he wanted to give our relationship another shot. I was extremely overwhelmed and simultaneously thankful. God had restored my marriage just as He said He would. I have uploaded a fuller version of my testimony to my YouTube page here: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=wD1RO6CT5bM For anyone reading who may be going through a similar journey, continue to stand! It took us 4 months to see the promise manifested so this was by no means an overnight journey. Be encouraged that no matter how impossible your situation may seem, God can and will restore your marriage. Keep the faith!



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